Codependency Evaluation

How codependent are you? 

Instructions:
Choose the number which comes closest to representing how true the statement is for you right now. (1 being the least true and 5 the most true)
Click the "Calculate" button at the bottom of the screen when you've finished making your selection.


Less True <--> More True  

1 2 3 4 5    My actions are guided by how I think the other person will react or respond.

1 2 3 4 5    I tend to help others out even if it means that I suffer or lose out.

1 2 3 4 5    I lie or withhold the truth to protect myself.

1 2 3 4 5     I find myself covering for another person's behavior.

1 2 3 4 5     I have marked or counted alcohol bottles, made notes/recorded other people's conversations, searched for hidden drugs or secrets, or in other ways monitored someone else's behavior

1 2 3 4 5     I spend a great deal of time talking about, and being too concerned with, other people's behavior, problems, or future.

1 2 3 4 5    Things must be "just so" for me to feel comfortable.

1 2 3 4 5     I try to protect others from making mistakes, whether they ask for my help or not.

1 2 3 4 5     My mental attention is on pleasing you.

1 2 3 4 5     My social circle has diminished significantly since becoming involved with a spouse or child.

1 2 3 4 5     I put aside my values in order to stay with or be connected with another.

1 2 3 4 5     The quality of my life is in direct relation to the quality of yours.

1 2 3 4 5     I am a control-a-holic type person.

1 2 3 4 5     I am not so aware of how I feel. But I am aware of how you feel.

1 2 3 4 5     I attend more than one workshop/personal growth seminar per month.

1 2 3 4 5     I am slow to be aware of or feel the pain when people hurt me.

1 2 3 4 5     The less nice a person is to me, the more I try to win them over.

1 2 3 4 5     I tend to be a compulsive caretaker.

1 2 3 4 5     I have a hard time telling the truth, because it may hurt someone.

1 2 3 4 5     I have a very difficult time doing things just for me.

1 2 3 4 5     I work more than 45 hours per week.

1 2 3 4 5     I will go to great lengths to get approval.




Total:   Fe Score:   

Scoring Key:
Under 35: You are fine
36-50: You are fine, but it is time to deepen your own life
51-75: You are fine, but may not be living YOUR life
Over 76: You have some work to do, get yourself to a codependents anonymous meeting