of the first and most valuable lessons one learns in applying knowledge of
typology to relationships with others is forgiveness. You will probably
feel yourself compelled to forgive a person with whom you are having difficulty,
both for not being the way you are, and for being the way he is.
Forgiveness of the sort that will help the relationship cannot come from simply
conceding that "people are different," for everyone pretty much
"knows" that; forgiveness of a useful, constructive sort can come only
from understanding how the other person differs from yourself.
addition to being a certain type, each of us has certain roles to play.
These roles are absolutely unique. They can never be reproduced or
re-created. Roles are marvelous inventions that enable us to get on with
one another. We cannot live without roles. But we must not allow
ourselves to be oppressed by them, either.
humans can do miraculous and extraordinary things. We are all inheritors
of millions of years of human evolution. At the core of each of us is a
unique set of lifelong relationships and a unique configuration of
experience. There is no one else who can ever fill your role in the
from Predicting the Past: Memos on the Enticing Universe of Possibility,
by Humphry Osmond
we take how we see ourselves (and how we see others) into account, we will be
unable to understand how others see and feel about themselves and their world.
Unaware, we will project our intentions on their behavior and call ourselves
is a fact, which is constantly and overwhelmingly apparent in my practical
work, that people are virtually incapable of understanding and accepting any
point of view other than their own. In small things a general superficiality
of outlook, combined with a none too common forbearance and tolerance and an
equally rare goodwill, may help to build a bridge over the chasm which lack of
understanding opens between man and man. But in important matters, and
especially those concerned with ideals, an understanding seems, as a rule, to
be beyond the bounds of possibility.
-Carl Gustav Jung
"Most people are so thoroughly immersed in their
personalized version of reality that it is invisible to them, much as fish are
the last creatures on the planet likely to discover water."
-The Mythic Path
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