are organized are just too lazy to look for things.
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Does Your Home Say About You?
Our homes are a metaphor for our lives.
What does your home say about your life?
A home for the soul does not require a particular design or style - it
just needs conscious attention and intention - and it's certainly a journey.
We are continually growing and becoming more of who we truly are. And, as
our awareness grows, we become more aware of the messages in our surroundings.
According to Jung, our home is a physical manifestation of our psyche;
changes to the home reflect changes to the Self.
It is crucial to create an environment that reflects who we each are.
But how do we know who we are if we are too busy to create a relationship with
ourselves? We all know relationships with others require quality time.
The same is true of relationships with ourselves.
A home for the soul needs to support our solitude. Solitude allows
us to touch the soul and hear our deepest heart's yearnings. Many years
ago I was trekking in Nepal - mostly by myself, but from time to time meeting up
with others. I realized the only time I could be sure I was walking at my
own pace was when I was alone. When I was trekking in front of someone I noticed
I adjusted my pace so as to not hold them up. When I was walking behind
someone, I adjusted my pace so they wouldn't have to wait for me. And it
was mostly unconscious.
That could be a case for living a life alone - but I prefer to think of it as a
reminder to take time alone to connect with myself. Part of that is
simplifying our lives too. As we get older we gain wisdom and find
ourselves creating space for ourselves and what is most important to us by
letting go of the things we spent the first half of our lives accumulating.
To be at our best and share our gifts with others, we need to be feeding our
soul, replenishing and renewing ourselves. It's often the first thing to
go as our lives speed up.
It's easy to forget who we are - and if we forget who we are, how can we
create an environment that reflects and supports our highest selves?
Redecorating is an important way to manage the stresses of daily life because with
every small transformation we are actually working on our own interior design.
How cool is that?
So, paint a wall, move the furniture and get rid of those things that cost more
in time, trouble, dusting or money to maintain, than they are worth. And
make space for yourself.
You will discover who you are, supported by an environment which creates a space
where the mind and body can settle into the silence of your true nature and hear
your heart's whispers. That's when you'll regain your center and be
replenished by your inner resources.
Vicky White - Life Design Strategies
THE UBIQUITOUS "DO" LIST
evaluate your "to-do" list.
lists and their contents create more stress than they relieve because to a large
extent they represent thinking and decision-making still undone. They turn into
reminders of guilt and overwhelm, instead of being sources of clarity or
catalysts for productive action. Effective lists should be the result of
appropriate and sufficient thinking, not salt in the wound of avoided decisions
said if you carry an
item over on your "do" list more than three times, then you probably
aren't going to do it. One radical solution is to restrict your
"do" list to three items only -- items you are definitely going to
finish that day!
live with a three-item "do" list?
too many good organizing tips to list without turning this into an organizing
site. I often pick up tips from magazines or books -- just one new tip can
make a huge difference! For instance, I set my dining table as if for
dinner, and amazingly no more clutter landed there.
David Allen's book is one of the best there is on the topic of organizing.
Below is his comprehensive "workflow" diagram. Being organized
is an ongoing struggle for me -- as it is for many people in this era!
It's helpful to know that fighting clutter is an epidemic problem that has been
culturally created in the last generation. It's not our "fault"
that we have clutter problems, although clutter cannot be conquered until we
step up to making decisions about handling it. Sometimes that requires Te,
which INFJs prefer to avoid!
Things Done, David
At the heart of David Allen's
productivity coaching is the discipline of a weekly review. "That is
critical to making personal organization a vital, dynamic reality," he
says. Here, adapted from Allen's website, is a list of steps that you should
work your way through every Friday afternoon.
1. Sort your loose papers.
Gather all scraps of paper -- business cards, receipts, miscellaneous notes --
and put them into your in-basket to process.
2. Process your notes.
Review journal entries, meeting notes, and miscellaneous scribblings. Turn them
into appropriate action items, projects, and so on.
3. Review previous calendar
data. Look through expired daily calendar pages for remaining action
items, and move those items forward.
4. Download your data.
Write down any new projects, action items, "waiting-for" items, and so
5. Review outcome lists.
One by one, evaluate the status of each project, goal, and outcome.
6. Review "next
action" lists. Check off all completed actions. Look for reminders
of further action steps.
7. Review "pending"
and "support" files. Browse through work-in-progress
materials and update lists of new actions, completions, and
"reminders" lists. Make sure that there isn't anything that
you haven't done that you need to do. Also, make sure that there aren't any
checklists that you need to review.
9. Review "someday"
and "maybe" lists. Look for any projects that may have become
active, and transfer them to your "projects" list. Delete any dead
"waiting-for" lists. Record appropriate follow-up actions.
Check them off as you complete them.
11. Be creative and
courageous. Add to your system any new, wonderful, harebrained,
thought-provoking, risk-taking ideas that have occurred to you.
AN INTERVIEW ABOUT THE GTD SYSTEM
If there's one thing that we
all probably agree on, it's that they have too much to do and too little time in
which to do it. Why do so many of us feel that way?
There is always more to do than there
is time to do it, especially in an environment of so much possibility. We all
want to be acknowledged; we all want our work to be meaningful. And in an
attempt to achieve that goal, we all keep letting stuff enter our lives.
The problem, of course, is that we
also want to finish what we start. Much of the stress that people feel doesn't
come from having too much to do. It comes from not finishing what they've
started. That's why a lot of my work has to do with how people deal with their
input -- email, phone messages, reports, conversations. Everything that isn't
where it should be is an open loop, an incomplete, a distraction that slows you
down. Your brain says, "Hey, that doesn't belong there," and you have
to deal with that impulse.
If you allow too much dross to
accumulate in your "10 acres" -- in other words, if you allow too many
things that represent undecided, untracked, unmanaged agreements with yourself
and with others to gather in your personal space -- that will start to weigh on
you. It will dull your effectiveness. You've got to dig into the mess and put
those things to rest. Productivity is about completion.
Isn't it interesting that people feel
best about themselves right before they go on vacation? They've cleared up all
of their to-do piles, closed up transactions, renewed old promises with
themselves. My most basic suggestion is that people should do that more than
just once a year. In fact, I tell people to take inventory weekly -- to sort
through all of the stuff that they haven't yet acted on. If you can get a clear
picture of everything that you have to do, you'll be able to say, "Oh, this
is what I have to do right now" -- and then take the next step in getting
If people took such an
inventory, what would they find?
I like to talk about the "runway
level" of life -- all of the current actions, all of the little things that
stack up. On their runways, people typically have enough stuff to create 300 or
400 hours of work. What's driving all of those tasks are between 30 and 100
projects of various shapes and sizes -- commitments that people have made that
require many steps to fulfill.
Once you've taken inventory, you can
start to make sense of your runway. But then comes a second challenge: finding
the time to do what you need to do. What's really different today is that we
live and work in what I call "weird time." In weird time, no one gets
2 hours to do anything. Instead, we get 15 minutes -- and sometimes only 5
minutes -- between meetings and phone calls. You actually can get a lot done in
weird time, but most people's thinking just isn't set up to take advantage of
it. There are lots of opportunities during the day that people waste. They feel
bad because they're not as productive as they should be, but they don't know
what to do about it.
What to do about it is to turn it
into a game: How efficient can I be? When something lands on your radar screen
that isn't where it needs to be, you must decide two things. First, what's a
successful outcome? In other words, what will stop the cognitive dissonance? And
second, how do I allocate resources to make sure that the outcome materializes?
That doesn't mean that you need to take action right away. But it does mean
that, in order to get the task off of your mind, you need to decide on a course
of action. The worst thing that you can do is to let things sit.
That doesn't necessarily mean that
you should always work on "the important stuff" first. You might not
have the energy, the tools, or the time. Sometimes, the most appropriate thing
to do with five free minutes is to water the plants. Once you know what you're
doing, productivity becomes your one true competitive edge. There's an elegance
to how you work and live; it's not just about running faster.
That leads to a simple
question that most of us find difficult to answer: How should we go about
When people ask me how to set
priorities, I ask them a question: At what level do you want to have this
conversation? Each of us operates on many different levels at all times. We each
have a runway that holds all of the little things that consume our time. At
10,000 feet are the projects. At 20,000 feet, people are deciding on their roles
and goals. At 30,000 feet, people are thinking ahead, asking themselves where
they want to be in their careers 12 to 18 months down the road. At 40,000 feet,
they're thinking 3 to 5 years out and looking at their organizational
aspirations. Then, at the top -- at 50,000 feet -- they're asking, "What's
my job on this planet?"
A Wall Street executive once
complained to me about having to attend too many meetings. I drew a chart and
asked, "At what level do you want to have this conversation?" I
explained that at 20,000 feet, maybe you need those meetings. But if you go up a
level and think about the next 12 to 18 months, maybe you can pass on some of
those meetings. And at 50,000 feet, where you think about your heart and your
health, you might say, "I don't need to make partner. I've made enough
money. From now on, I'm going to leave at 7 PM every day. And if you don't like
it, then fire me."
So a big part of setting
priorities is being clear about your values?
Be careful. That's a very popular
notion these days: If you focus on your values, then you'll improve the
"balance" between your business and personal lives. Give me a break.
Focusing on your values may provide you with meaning, but it won't simplify
things. You'll just discover even more stuff that's important to you.
I've been working with the most
values-driven organization that I've ever come across. And it has a big burnout
problem. People there are always invited to collaborate; everyone wants to play.
But how many 7 AM-to-7 PM meetings can you attend? You want to attend all of
them because your values tell you that they're all important. But your spouse
and your kids start saying, "We never see you."
We suffer the stress of infinite
opportunity: There are so many things that we could do, and all we see are
people who seem to be performing at star quality. It's very hard not to try to
be like them. The problem is, if you get wrapped up in that game, you'll get
eaten alive. You can do anything -- but not everything. The universe is full of
creative projects that are waiting to be done. So, if you really care about
quality of life, if you want to relax, then don't focus on values. Just control
your aspirations. That will simplify things. Learning to set boundaries is
incredibly difficult for most people.
Most people make the opposite
choice. They feel such a sense of responsibility to their job and to their
colleagues that they become even more harried ...
Which is utterly self-defeating. Your
sense of "responsibility" is a function of your response ability. I
learned that in karate. Your ability to generate power is directly proportional
to your ability to relax. The power of a karate punch comes from speed, not
muscle. And a tense muscle is a slow muscle.
In other words, you can't do things
faster until you learn how to slow down. How do you slow down? It's all about
the dynamic of detachment. You have to back off and be quiet. Retreat from the
task at hand, so that you can gain a new perspective on what you're doing. If
you get too wrapped up in all of the stuff coming at you, you lose your ability
to respond appropriately and effectively. If your inbox and your outbox are
completely full, or if people are screaming at you, then it's difficult to back
off and think about things at a different level.
Have you ever felt as though time
disappeared? Say, when you're really into a good movie? Or when you're busy
doing something that you love, and the morning just flies by? From my spiritual
practices, I know that when you get to some levels of existence, space and time
seem to vanish. When I'm at those levels, I don't even think in terms of space
and time anymore. When everything really lines up for me, speed is not an issue,
because I have found my own rhythm. That rhythm may seem lightning fast or
deathly slow, but inside me it's all the same. It's outside time.
Look at the best martial artists.
They move very slowly. The faster you type, the slower it will feel to you,
because you surf with your thinking. The same thing applies to reading: The
faster you read, the more time will disappear, because you'll be able to feed
stuff to your brain as fast as your brain can process it. That's why speed
readers have better comprehension. They've trained their eyes to recognize stuff
as fast as their brain can handle it.
But it's hard to leave space and time
behind when you're distracted. If there's an open loop, space and time will find
it. And anything waiting for a decision is an open loop. If there's a stack of
papers on your desk, you have to decide on a course of action. As long as you've
let that pile into your world, it's got a hold on you. What's the very next
thing that you need to do? Until you decide on that, there's a gap between where
you are and where you need to be -- a big black hole that will suck you in.
David Allen's productivity principles
are rooted in big ideas -- in a continuous search for personal growth and
self-understanding. But they're also eminently practical. Here are some of his
tips for confronting life in the fast lane.
Create an "action
support" file in your briefcase or on your desk. Use it for
one-off paper items -- airline tickets, fax confirmations, and so on -- that
don't warrant their own file but that you need to have at hand for certain
Keep your email inbox empty.
Discipline yourself to dump as many messages as you can right away, to address
immediately any action that will take less than two minutes, and to group
actions that will take more than two minutes into an "Action" folder.
Increase your ease at the
keyboard. If you don't type at least 50 words per minute, install a
typing program (such as "Mavis Beacon Teaches Typing"), and then
practice. Also, learn the seven most common speed-key combinations for
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