Accept the Unchangeable - Everything that has happened in your life to this
minute is unchangeable. Itís history. The greatest waste of energy is in
looking back at missed opportunities, lamenting past events, grudge collecting,
getting even, harboring ill will, and any vengeful thinking. Success is the only
acceptable form of revenge. By forgiving your trespassers, you become free to
concentrate on going forward with your life and succeeding in spite of your
detractors. You will live a rewarding and fulfilling life.
enemies, on the other hand, will forever wonder how you went on to become so
successful without them and in the shadow of their doubts.
Idea: Write down on a sheet of paper things that happened in the past that
bother you. Now crumple the paper into a ball and throw it at the person
teaching this program at the front of the room. This symbolizes letting go of
Change the Changeable - What you can change is your reaction to what
others say and do. And you can control your own thoughts and actions by dwelling
on desired results instead of the penalties of failure. The only real control
you have in life is that of your immediate thought and action. Since most of
what we do is a reflex, subconscious habit, it is wise not to act on emotional
impulse. In personal relations, it is better to wait a moment until reason has
the opportunity to compete with your emotions.
Idea: Write down in your diary one thing you will do tomorrow to help you
relax more during and after a stressful day.
Avoid the Unacceptable - Go out of your way to get out of the way of potentially
dangerous behaviors and environments. When people tailgate you on the freeway,
change lanes. If they follow you at night, drive to a well-lighted public place.
there are loud, obnoxious people next to you at a restaurant or club, change
tables, or locations. Also, be cautious of personal relationships developed via
the Internet. With the massive number of individuals surfing the net, the number
of predators increases in like proportion. Always be on the alert for
potentially dangerous situations involving your health, personal safety,
financial speculation and emotional relationships.
Idea: What is one unacceptable behavior you have or allow others to do to you
that you will avoid starting tomorrow? Example: The way you drive, being around
negative people, walking down dark streets alone late at night, etc.
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